In the Dark of Winter, Embrace the Discomforts of Growth

The pandemic. Cooped up inside to avoid the cold. Seasonal affective disorder. Climate change. Mercury retrograde.  Restlessness, discontent, and malaise is not uncommon this time of year, especially during these trying times. Our tendency may be to push through, force a smile onto our faces, and pretend it’s not there. Certainly there are situations that […]

Make Intentions and Resolutions for the 2022 New Year

The distinction between an intention and resolution is small but important. A resolution is a firm decision that you either meet or miss. Weight loss, exercise, or saving money are typical resolutions for the new year. Less than half of resolutions are maintained after 6 months, according to this research. Though resolutions overlap with intentions, […]

Communication in a Committed Relationship

Successful relationships require commitment and good communication. This advice often seems to be misconstrued as being limited to articulating views and beliefs clearly to the other. Good communication should be reciprocal, aimed at mutual understanding. Too often we just want to be heard without committing to listening deeply to others. If we are uninterested in discovering […]

Journey to Be in a Relationship

Like most girls, I spent my childhood imagining that I’d meet a wonderful man and live happily ever after. The search was the hard part, according to cultural lore. One day, about 6 years into my marriage, and much to my surprise, I found myself crying as I walked down the street. Why? I had 2 […]

Mother Earth’s Love Language

We often speak of the golden rule: treat others as we wish to be treated. But have you heard of the platinum rule: treat others as they wish to be treated? Both are hard, the second is harder. Understanding what others want can be challenging because we tend to conflate our own needs and wishes with that […]

Thanksgiving And Lovegiving To Earth

“When I was a boy of 14, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be 21, I was astonished at how much the old man had learned in seven years.”  ― Mark Twain Twain’s wisdom resonates because it strikes such a chord of […]

The Way Earth Makes Me Feel

Things always seem to come full circle.  We start out as helpless babies, and decades later return to the need to be cared for by others.  There’s an innocence to the surrender of needing to be cared for by others at those early and late stages that we somehow lose, or at least have diminished in between. […]