Toxic Positivity and Emotional Intelligence

The happiness movement is suffering from another overly simplistic interpretation of positivity:  the belief that one should only allow positive emotions no matter how dire the situation.   Susan David, author of Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life and popular ted talk speaker, discusses toxic positivity as being stuck […]

Purpose, Passion, Productivity. In That Order.

Early in my career facilitating leadership development, one day I jumped out of bed thinking, “I can’t believe I get paid to do this!” At this moment, I realized what work is meant to be. Too often, work seems to be something different. Instead of feeding our heart, modern work may be suffocating, crushing our souls given […]

Yin Leadership: An Alternative to the Masculine/Feminine

Sometimes I just long for life to be simpler. Years ago, things seemed more cut and dry, and I didn’t question matters much. I knew what was right and wrong, and of course, I was usually on the side of right. With age, we tend to realize that matters are rarely so black and white. Nuance […]

Working on Relationships, Part 3: Soul Mate Radar Detector

Ah, what’s better than the feeling of falling in love? Finally finding your soul mate, happily ever after, yadda yadda. Then two, or maybe five years later, we’re realizing maybe they’re not our soul mate after all. The prince is actually a frog and pushes our buttons like no other. Is something wrong with our soul mate […]

Working on Relationships, Part 1: Intimate Communication

A lifelong student of relationships, I have worked hard – and am a work in progress – at learning the skills needed to create healthy relationships.  Intimate communication is one of the most transformative and essential relationship skills, one that I hope everyone will learn. Communicating with intimacy is important because it happens on deep […]

What Doesn’t Kill You During Pandemic

Most would call 2020 a disastrous year, with no real end in sight even now that we’re in 2021. I’m counting my blessings and challenges, and feeling so grateful. I don’t mean to diminish the bona-fide pain and suffering that is occurring around us. I too have had my share given I’ve lost 3 immediate family […]

Journey to Be in a Relationship

Like most girls, I spent my childhood imagining that I’d meet a wonderful man and live happily ever after. The search was the hard part, according to cultural lore. One day, about 6 years into my marriage, and much to my surprise, I found myself crying as I walked down the street. Why? I had 2 […]

The Art of Acceptance

Standing before many mirrors over the past thirty years, I’ve seen patterns of thought, feeling, and behavior in myself that produced outcomes I’d prefer never experiencing again. At one time, I wore these patterns like a well-worn pair of jeans that defined me. On the other hand, they also constrained the limits of my comfort zone, […]

Walking for Life: Voting with our Feet

In the USA we have just come through a long election cycle, which appears to have no end in sight. No matter where a person falls on any ideological or political scale, it is paramount for everyone to vote. Voting is one way to listen to each other, even if what we hear is unpleasant. […]

Introducing: Living in the BlueSpace

As a man who has traveled the inner pathway over the last thirty years, studied under many masters, and died a thousand times, I discovered my true Self was within me all that time. Already whole and complete, my Self was awaiting my acknowledgment then its embodiment so it could be fully expressed through me. If […]