Why The World Needs More Social Workers Right Now

As defined by the Bureau of Labor Statistics, a social worker is a skilled professional that helps individuals, groups, and families cope with life’s challenges, through methods like counseling, psychotherapy, research, and even policymaking. By helping people get on the right track, social workers ensure that everyone in the community can adequately perform their social […]

In the Dark of Winter, Embrace the Discomforts of Growth

The pandemic. Cooped up inside to avoid the cold. Seasonal affective disorder. Climate change. Mercury retrograde.  Restlessness, discontent, and malaise is not uncommon this time of year, especially during these trying times. Our tendency may be to push through, force a smile onto our faces, and pretend it’s not there. Certainly there are situations that […]

Acquisition Addiction: Four Hidden Costs

The holidays: fun, joy of celebration, memories galore.   All impossible without sparkly décor, red and green garb, and a load of presents, right?     How about I skip rant about the commercialization of Christmas, and talk about four reasons the acquisition approach is actually detracting from your goal?   First, although the euphoria of […]

Purpose, Passion, Productivity. In That Order.

Early in my career facilitating leadership development, one day I jumped out of bed thinking, “I can’t believe I get paid to do this!” At this moment, I realized what work is meant to be. Too often, work seems to be something different. Instead of feeding our heart, modern work may be suffocating, crushing our souls given […]

Working on Relationships, Part 4: Marriage, Partners, Swiping Right

Coming out of my 20-year marriage in the late 1990s, I felt like Rip Van Winkle entering the Matrix’s dating scene. Where we once employed gyms and bars as the places to meet one or two potential partners at a time, we seemingly transformed overnight onto online websites and apps where you can literally meet hundreds […]

Working on Relationships, Part 3: Soul Mate Radar Detector

Ah, what’s better than the feeling of falling in love? Finally finding your soul mate, happily ever after, yadda yadda. Then two, or maybe five years later, we’re realizing maybe they’re not our soul mate after all. The prince is actually a frog and pushes our buttons like no other. Is something wrong with our soul mate […]

Working on Relationships, Part 2: Boundaries

Trigger warning: pleasers and conflict avoiders, you’re not going to like this topic. You’re going to learn that a healthy relationship includes setting boundaries, which may displease or cause conflict. Setting boundaries means that you first know your values and how you wish to be treated, then communicate those wishes to others. Respecting boundaries means that […]

Working on Relationships, Part 1: Intimate Communication

A lifelong student of relationships, I have worked hard – and am a work in progress – at learning the skills needed to create healthy relationships.  Intimate communication is one of the most transformative and essential relationship skills, one that I hope everyone will learn. Communicating with intimacy is important because it happens on deep […]

Communication in a Committed Relationship

Successful relationships require commitment and good communication. This advice often seems to be misconstrued as being limited to articulating views and beliefs clearly to the other. Good communication should be reciprocal, aimed at mutual understanding. Too often we just want to be heard without committing to listening deeply to others. If we are uninterested in discovering […]

Journey to Be in a Relationship

Like most girls, I spent my childhood imagining that I’d meet a wonderful man and live happily ever after. The search was the hard part, according to cultural lore. One day, about 6 years into my marriage, and much to my surprise, I found myself crying as I walked down the street. Why? I had 2 […]