Back To The Trees

We ask you to connect back to the trees and reread this blog by Dr. Kimberly Andrews, originally posted on June 17th of 2020. Now, it is time to head back to the trees. We literally are going to talk about trees in this blog, but I mean this figuratively as well about a sense […]

Prayer For Mother

“Exquisite” best describes the sensory explosions I experienced on my walk through Mother today. Among other places, I frequent her trails along the James River in Central Virginia. Today’s walk wasn’t long but it was filled with the pleasures of sight, sound, color, fragrance, texture, and more. Her endless shades of green filled my eyes. […]

Developmental Theory and the Evolution of Earth and Humanity, Part I

Sure, there are aspects of my younger self that I miss (like my youthful waistline, I have the “Covid 19”), but mostly I wouldn’t want to go back in time for anything.  It’s not that I had a bad childhood or youth.  I don’t wish to go back to the ignorance, stress, and struggle of […]

Toxic Positivity and Emotional Intelligence

The happiness movement is suffering from another overly simplistic interpretation of positivity:  the belief that one should only allow positive emotions no matter how dire the situation.   Susan David, author of Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life and popular ted talk speaker, discusses toxic positivity as being stuck […]

Yin Leadership: An Alternative to the Masculine/Feminine

Sometimes I just long for life to be simpler. Years ago, things seemed more cut and dry, and I didn’t question matters much. I knew what was right and wrong, and of course, I was usually on the side of right. With age, we tend to realize that matters are rarely so black and white. Nuance […]

Working on Relationships, Part 4: Marriage, Partners, Swiping Right

Coming out of my 20-year marriage in the late 1990s, I felt like Rip Van Winkle entering the Matrix’s dating scene. Where we once employed gyms and bars as the places to meet one or two potential partners at a time, we seemingly transformed overnight onto online websites and apps where you can literally meet hundreds […]

Working on Relationships, Part 3: Soul Mate Radar Detector

Ah, what’s better than the feeling of falling in love? Finally finding your soul mate, happily ever after, yadda yadda. Then two, or maybe five years later, we’re realizing maybe they’re not our soul mate after all. The prince is actually a frog and pushes our buttons like no other. Is something wrong with our soul mate […]

Working on Relationships, Part 2: Boundaries

Trigger warning: pleasers and conflict avoiders, you’re not going to like this topic. You’re going to learn that a healthy relationship includes setting boundaries, which may displease or cause conflict. Setting boundaries means that you first know your values and how you wish to be treated, then communicate those wishes to others. Respecting boundaries means that […]

Working on Relationships, Part 1: Intimate Communication

A lifelong student of relationships, I have worked hard – and am a work in progress – at learning the skills needed to create healthy relationships.  Intimate communication is one of the most transformative and essential relationship skills, one that I hope everyone will learn. Communicating with intimacy is important because it happens on deep […]

Communication in a Committed Relationship

Successful relationships require commitment and good communication. This advice often seems to be misconstrued as being limited to articulating views and beliefs clearly to the other. Good communication should be reciprocal, aimed at mutual understanding. Too often we just want to be heard without committing to listening deeply to others. If we are uninterested in discovering […]