On Contrast

At one time I held a rather rigid expectation that my life would proceed along a straight and narrow road that would lead me to what common measure considers success in relationship, in business, and in material existence. Laughable conveys only a tiny fraction of my current sentiments regarding this expectation. During a recent period  […]

Prayer For Mother

“Exquisite” best describes the sensory explosions I experienced on my walk through Mother today. Among other places, I frequent her trails along the James River in Central Virginia. Today’s walk wasn’t long but it was filled with the pleasures of sight, sound, color, fragrance, texture, and more. Her endless shades of green filled my eyes. […]

Developmental Theory and the Evolution of Earth and Humanity, Part I

Sure, there are aspects of my younger self that I miss (like my youthful waistline, I have the “Covid 19”), but mostly I wouldn’t want to go back in time for anything.  It’s not that I had a bad childhood or youth.  I don’t wish to go back to the ignorance, stress, and struggle of […]

Toxic Positivity and Emotional Intelligence

The happiness movement is suffering from another overly simplistic interpretation of positivity:  the belief that one should only allow positive emotions no matter how dire the situation.   Susan David, author of Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life and popular ted talk speaker, discusses toxic positivity as being stuck […]

Your Purpose? Or Someone Else’s?

I believe purpose is a deep-seated sense of the legacy that we wish to leave for the world.  The deep-seated aspect means it can either feel ingrained and pervasive, or ill-defined and elusive.  

Inspiration/Desperation: Purpose Arising From Challenge

Studies show that happiness increases with wealth up to the point where we get our needs met. After this point, it is believed, that we must then fill our lives with eudaimonia (doing good) instead of hedonia (feeling good) since hedonism has a limited impact on life satisfaction. Doing good work often stems from a […]

Purpose, Passion, Productivity. In That Order.

Early in my career facilitating leadership development, one day I jumped out of bed thinking, “I can’t believe I get paid to do this!” At this moment, I realized what work is meant to be. Too often, work seems to be something different. Instead of feeding our heart, modern work may be suffocating, crushing our souls given […]

Yin Leadership: An Alternative to the Masculine/Feminine

Sometimes I just long for life to be simpler. Years ago, things seemed more cut and dry, and I didn’t question matters much. I knew what was right and wrong, and of course, I was usually on the side of right. With age, we tend to realize that matters are rarely so black and white. Nuance […]

The Dreamer

I’m often invigorated by my inner visions. My body responds with glorious sensations as I dream of bliss-filled realities of Union. Many of my visions are quite vivid. I feel blessed and filled with wonderment. I child-like once again. Yes, I am happy to be a dreamer. Dreaming comes naturally to me. In my life, […]

Working on Relationships, Part 2: Boundaries

Trigger warning: pleasers and conflict avoiders, you’re not going to like this topic. You’re going to learn that a healthy relationship includes setting boundaries, which may displease or cause conflict. Setting boundaries means that you first know your values and how you wish to be treated, then communicate those wishes to others. Respecting boundaries means that […]