Your Purpose? Or Someone Else’s?

I believe purpose is a deep-seated sense of the legacy that we wish to leave for the world.  The deep-seated aspect means it can either feel ingrained and pervasive, or ill-defined and elusive.     Much like the oxygen we breathe, either we know it’s there on a visceral level, or it feels more like faith, […]

Inspiration/Desperation: Purpose Arising From Challenge

Studies show that happiness increases with wealth up to the point where we get our needs met. After this point, it is believed, that we must then fill our lives with eudaimonia (doing good) instead of hedonia (feeling good) since hedonism has a limited impact on life satisfaction. Doing good work often stems from a […]

Purpose, Passion, Productivity. In That Order.

Early in my career facilitating leadership development, one day I jumped out of bed thinking, “I can’t believe I get paid to do this!” At this moment, I realized what work is meant to be. Too often, work seems to be something different. Instead of feeding our heart, modern work may be suffocating, crushing our souls given […]

Yin Leadership: An Alternative to the Masculine/Feminine

Sometimes I just long for life to be simpler. Years ago, things seemed more cut and dry, and I didn’t question matters much. I knew what was right and wrong, and of course, I was usually on the side of right. With age, we tend to realize that matters are rarely so black and white. Nuance […]

The Dreamer

I’m often invigorated by my inner visions. My body responds with glorious sensations as I dream of bliss-filled realities of Union. Many of my visions are quite vivid. I feel blessed and filled with wonderment. I child-like once again. Yes, I am happy to be a dreamer. Dreaming comes naturally to me. In my life, […]

Working on Relationships, Part 4: Marriage, Partners, Swiping Right

Coming out of my 20-year marriage in the late 1990s, I felt like Rip Van Winkle entering the Matrix’s dating scene. Where we once employed gyms and bars as the places to meet one or two potential partners at a time, we seemingly transformed overnight onto online websites and apps where you can literally meet hundreds […]

Working on Relationships, Part 3: Soul Mate Radar Detector

Ah, what’s better than the feeling of falling in love? Finally finding your soul mate, happily ever after, yadda yadda. Then two, or maybe five years later, we’re realizing maybe they’re not our soul mate after all. The prince is actually a frog and pushes our buttons like no other. Is something wrong with our soul mate […]

Working on Relationships, Part 2: Boundaries

Trigger warning: pleasers and conflict avoiders, you’re not going to like this topic. You’re going to learn that a healthy relationship includes setting boundaries, which may displease or cause conflict. Setting boundaries means that you first know your values and how you wish to be treated, then communicate those wishes to others. Respecting boundaries means that […]

Working on Relationships, Part 1: Intimate Communication

A lifelong student of relationships, I have worked hard – and am a work in progress – at learning the skills needed to create healthy relationships.  Intimate communication is one of the most transformative and essential relationship skills, one that I hope everyone will learn. Communicating with intimacy is important because it happens on deep […]

Exploring Rabbit Holes

If you’re as curious about your human existence as I am, I invite you to join me as I venture down another rabbit hole of self-exploration about the polarities we experience while on planet Earth. I begin entering these rabbit holes with practices I picked up long ago from a wise teacher I encountered. First, […]